Why do we feel scared?
2024-11-20
Once upon a time, nestled in a field of bouncy, purple flowers taller than houses, lived a little fluffy creature. This creature loved to explore! He'd bounce from flower to flower, his little nose twitching with delight at the sweet smells. He was brave, most of the time.
One sunny morning, while exploring a particularly tall and wobbly flower, he heard a rustle in the long grass. Whoosh! went the grass, and our little creature felt a shiver go down his tiny spine. His heart thumped like a tiny drum against his fluffy chest. He felt…scared!
He stopped bouncing. He froze, his fluffy body becoming stiff as a twig. He didn't know what made the sound. It could have been anything! Perhaps a big, grumpy creature with sharp claws, or maybe something with a loud roar that shook the whole field of purple flowers.
His mommy, a wise and gentle creature with soft fur, found him trembling amongst the flowers. "What's wrong, my little one?" she asked, her voice as warm as sunshine.
"I…I heard a noise!" he whimpered, his voice barely a squeak. "And it made me feel…scared!"
His mommy nuzzled him gently. "Being scared is perfectly okay," she said. "Everyone feels scared sometimes, even me! It's a feeling that helps us stay safe."
She explained, "Imagine your body is like a clever little car. When you hear a loud noise or see something unexpected, your body's ‘alarm system’ goes off. It's like the car's horn blaring – Beep beep! This alarm system is made up of many different things inside you. Your heart beats faster, like the engine speeding up, to get you ready to act. Your breathing gets quicker, providing more energy. Sometimes you might feel a bit shaky, like the car's wheels bumping over a bumpy road. That's your body getting ready to either run away or to fight if necessary!"
"But why does my body do that?" asked the little creature, still a bit trembly.
"It's because our brains are very clever," his mommy explained. "They are always watching out for danger. For a long, long time, creatures like us lived in places where there were many scary things. Our brains learned to recognize these scary things, and to make our bodies react quickly to protect us. Even though we don’t live in such dangerous places anymore, this old protection system is still in our bodies! It's like an old habit that is hard to break completely, and that’s okay."
"So, what's the ‘noise’ in the grass?" the little one asked, finally feeling a little braver.
His mommy smiled. "Let's go and see," she said. Together, they crept towards the rustling grass, very slowly and quietly. As they got closer, they saw it: a small, harmless creature was busy collecting seeds. It wasn't scary at all!
"See?" said his mommy. "Sometimes the things that scare us aren't actually dangerous. Our brains just sometimes jump to conclusions, making us feel scared when there's no real reason to be! The more we learn about the world, the better we understand what's really scary and what isn’t."
The little creature felt much better now. He learned that being scared was a normal feeling, a feeling that his body uses to help keep him safe. But he also learned that sometimes, his brain can get a little bit over-excited and that it’s okay to be brave enough to check out what’s making him scared and discover that it’s often not as dangerous as he first thought.
Over the next few days, the little creature practiced feeling brave. He faced his fears, one little at a time, learning that most things that seem scary at first are not scary at all once he learns more about them. He even learned to make friends with the little creature that had been collecting seeds, and they played amongst the purple flowers together. He still felt scared sometimes, but now he knew that the feeling wasn't something to be afraid of. It was just his body's way of saying, "Let's be careful!" And with his mommy's help, he learned how to listen to his body, understand his feelings, and face his fears with courage and understanding. He learned that even though the feeling of fear might be strong, it doesn't always mean that real danger is around. And that’s a very important lesson to learn!