Why do we feel guilty?
2024-11-20
Once upon a time, in a land filled with bouncy, colorful mushrooms and giggling rivers, lived a little fluffy creature. This creature loved to collect shiny pebbles. Oh, how he loved them! He had a whole collection, sparkling and smooth, nestled safely in a little woven basket. He spent hours arranging them, admiring their different colors and sizes. He even gave them names: Sparkle, Twinkle, and Rainbow were his favorites.
One sunny afternoon, his best friend, a creature with soft fur and big, curious eyes, came to play. They decided to build a magnificent castle out of twigs and leaves. The little fluffy creature, brimming with excitement, rummaged through his basket of pebbles. He picked out Sparkle, his absolute favorite, a pebble that shimmered with a rainbow of colors. He wanted to use it as the very top of the castle, a shimmering crown for their magnificent creation.
They worked together, carefully placing twigs and leaves, and finally, they set Sparkle atop the castle. It gleamed brilliantly in the sunshine. They admired their work, giggling and jumping with joy.
Suddenly, a strong gust of wind swept through the land. It howled and whistled, shaking the trees and scattering leaves. The castle, fragile and newly built, tumbled down! Sparkle, the beautiful rainbow pebble, flew out of its place and landed far away, hidden beneath a giant mushroom.
The little fluffy creature's heart sank. He looked at his friend, his eyes wide with worry. His friend looked sad too, but he quickly started to help gather the twigs and leaves. The little fluffy creature felt a strange feeling in his tummy. It wasn’t a hungry feeling, or a sick feeling, but something different. It felt heavy, like a little weight sitting on his chest.
He helped his friend rebuild the castle, but he couldn’t shake the feeling. He kept thinking about Sparkle, his lost favorite pebble. He knew he shouldn’t have put it on the top of the castle. He knew it was too fragile and that the wind could easily blow it away. He should have chosen a smaller, less precious pebble.
As the sun began to set, painting the sky in vibrant hues of orange and purple, the little fluffy creature sat quietly, staring at the incomplete castle. The heavy feeling in his tummy grew stronger. He realized this feeling was different from being sad; it felt like he had done something wrong, something that hurt his friend, and even more importantly, something that hurt himself by losing his favourite pebble.
His friend, sensing his sadness, nuzzled close. "It's okay," he said softly. "We can find Sparkle tomorrow. And we can build an even bigger and stronger castle."
But the little fluffy creature still felt the heavy feeling. His friend’s kind words helped, but the feeling lingered. This was guilt. It was the feeling he got when he knew he had done something he shouldn't have done, something that caused a problem, or hurt someone (even himself).
That night, while snuggled up in his cozy burrow, the little fluffy creature thought about his day. He understood that guilt wasn’t a punishment, but a signal. It was a reminder that he needed to think carefully about his actions and their consequences. It helped him learn from his mistakes.
The next morning, he and his friend searched diligently for Sparkle. Finally, they found it nestled beneath the mushroom, still shining brightly. The little fluffy creature carefully picked it up. The heavy feeling in his tummy began to ease. He apologized to his friend for the lost time building the castle and for putting Sparkle in danger. They rebuilt their castle, this time, using smaller pebbles, and making it stronger and more stable.
From that day on, the little fluffy creature learned to think carefully before he acted. He learned that sometimes, even when we try our best, things go wrong. But feeling guilty helped him learn from his mistakes and to be more mindful of his actions. He understood that guilt wasn't a bad thing; it was a way for him to understand and correct his behavior, making him a kinder and more considerate friend. He also learned that talking about his feelings helped him feel better, and that his friend was always there to support him. And so, he continued to collect his shiny pebbles, but with a newfound understanding of responsibility and the importance of thinking before acting. The shiny pebbles still sparkled, but now, they reminded him not only of beauty, but also of the importance of making good choices and learning from his mistakes. And sometimes, when he made a mistake, the guilt helped him grow a little bit taller, and a little bit wiser.