Why do we feel angry?
2024-11-20
Once upon a time, in a land filled with lollipop trees and rivers of chocolate milk, lived a little fluffy cloud named Nimbus. Nimbus loved to play! He loved bouncing on the rainbow swings, sliding down the gummy bear hills, and splashing in the chocolate milk rivers. But Nimbus had a secret. Sometimes, Nimbus felt a rumbling in his fluffy tummy, a prickly feeling in his little cloud body. This feeling made him want to stomp his tiny cloud feet and puff out his cloud cheeks. This feeling, my little one, was anger.
One sunny morning, Nimbus was building a magnificent castle out of marshmallow bricks. He’d spent ages carefully stacking them, making tall towers and secret passageways. He was so proud of his castle! Then, a mischievous gust of wind, a very strong one, zoomed past. Whoosh! The wind snatched the marshmallow bricks right out of Nimbus’s little cloud hands, scattering them all over the lollipop trees!
Nimbus felt that rumbling in his tummy again. The prickly feeling grew stronger. His cloud cheeks puffed out, and he wanted to shout! He felt a surge of… anger! He stamped his tiny cloud feet on the ground, making little marshmallow craters. He grumbled, "It's not fair! I worked so hard on my castle!"
He saw Sunny, a bright and cheerful little cloud nearby, playing happily with a bouncy rainbow ball. Sunny, noticing Nimbus’s upset face, floated over gently. "Nimbus," Sunny said kindly, "What's wrong? You seem a little… stormy."
Nimbus, still feeling angry, blurted out, "That awful wind! It ruined my castle! I’m so mad!"
Sunny listened patiently. Then, Sunny said, "I understand, Nimbus. It's okay to feel angry sometimes. Anger is a feeling, just like happiness or sadness. It tells us something important."
Sunny explained that anger usually happens when something doesn't go our way, or when we feel frustrated or hurt. "Imagine your castle," Sunny continued. "You worked really hard, and you felt happy building it. When the wind blew it away, you felt your happiness disappear. That feeling of loss and disappointment turned into anger. That's because your hard work was taken away, and you felt your wishes weren't respected."
Nimbus thought about this. Sunny was right. He had felt happy and proud, and then suddenly, disappointed and frustrated. The wind didn't mean to ruin his castle, but it did, and that made him angry.
Sunny suggested they build another castle together. "This time," Sunny said, "we can build it in a sheltered spot, away from the strong winds. We can even make it even bigger and better!"
As they worked together, rebuilding the castle, Nimbus began to feel calmer. He still remembered the anger he felt, but it wasn't as strong anymore. He realized that anger, while a strong feeling, didn't have to control him.
They added extra marshmallow walls, making it super strong, and even decorated it with gummy bear windows and lollipop towers. This time, they worked as a team, sharing ideas and helping each other. Nimbus felt happy again, a warm and fuzzy feeling completely different from the prickly anger.
Later that day, Nimbus learned another important lesson about anger. He was playing hide-and-seek with some other clouds. He was hiding behind a giant gumdrop bush, giggling to himself. Suddenly, another cloud, a rather grumpy one named Grumbles, bumped into him, accidentally knocking him over. Nimbus felt that familiar rumbling in his tummy again.
This time, instead of immediately getting angry, Nimbus remembered Sunny's words. He took a deep breath and said, "Ouch! That hurt. Please be more careful next time."
Grumbles, surprised by Nimbus's calm response, apologized. He hadn't meant to hurt Nimbus. Grumbles explained that he’d been frustrated because he couldn't find a good hiding spot. Nimbus understood. He knew what it felt like to be frustrated.
They both laughed, and decided to play together again. Nimbus realized that sometimes, even when something upsetting happens, talking about it and understanding why the other person acted the way they did can help to lessen the anger.
So, my little one, remember Nimbus’s story. Anger is a feeling, and it's okay to feel it sometimes. But it's important to understand why you feel angry. Just like Nimbus, you can learn to manage your anger by talking about it, finding solutions, and remembering that it's okay to feel all kinds of feelings, even the grumpy ones. And sometimes, building a marshmallow castle with a friend can help too!